Happiness comes from within , that’s True.It doesn’t come from a job, relationship, power or money but from inside of you!
Everyone knows one or two persons who are very happy with whatever they have, it doesn’t mean that they don’t strive for growth but they look happy most of the time. Daily sorrows or big losses hardly deter them from their happiness.
First, We need to know what is happiness? If you check the dictionary, it means contentment and fulfilment. Definitely, it comes when you feel satisfied and fulfilled. The ultimate happiness is achieved when you feel that your life is as it should be. If we discuss it scientifically, there are four primary chemicals in the brain that effect this feeling: Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins. Each one is activated in a different way.
Happiness is not how much you have but how much you enjoy.
I remember an incidence of my house help. She always seems to be happy, whenever anyone talk to her, she replies back with a smile. I know, that smile can be fake but she looks so contented. She has 4 kids to feed and a physically-disabled husband who works rarely. Once , I asked her the reason for her ever-happiness. She told me that she feels happy from inside. She never had big dream for her life in the terms of money but she always wanted peace in her family. The meaning of happiness for her is peace and love which she got in her family.
Definition of happiness might be same for everyone but the meaning and the perception will be different for each of us.
Every person has different dreams and paths for life but finally all want to achieve the same goal of satisfaction and contentment.Also, if we see the definition of happiness changes with age. When we are young, we want to party and feel happy. The same person in the old age needs peace and that is happiness. So, it is not important to feel good all the time. The thing which matters is feel satisfied most of the time. There are so many things said and mentioned about it as everyone is looking for it.
As Buddha learnt and taught us what is NOT happiness, physical and emotional feelings correspond or attach to an object. Like , the taste of eating our favourite food, that gives joy but momentarily. Similarly, ordinary happiness is a feeling that is connected with an object — for example, shopping, winning a prize or going on a vacation.The problem is that it never lasts because the objects of happiness don’t last. Once you loose interest in the object or it gets finish, the joyous emotions are followed by sad ones. Uunfortunately, most of us go through life looking for things to “make us happy.” But our happy quotient is never permanent, so we keep looking. That could be the reason why we see so many cases of depression now a days.
The happiness that is a factor of enlightenment is not dependent on objects but is a state of mind cultivated through mental discipline
Since it is not dependent on an impermanent object, it does not come and go. A person who has cultivated or practised the feelings of happiness in his/her mind , which are not associated with the materialistic things, might feel happy most of the time. It is about feeling happy about each and every moment.
Happiness cannot be travelled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude.